
This Post about our Purity Weekend is from guest columnist Corby Shields.
Bob: (approaching slowly, looking at ground) “Hey Jim,” (shuffles feet, scratches head), “I been wondering…how do you know if…uh…if, your wife is, you know, likes ‘it’?”
Terri: (dressed provocatively) “What do you mean have I considered why I’m dressing this way? At least the guys are paying attention to me now!”
Joe: “Dude, she wants me. You can see it in her eyes.” (listening) “Man, don’t bring that s**t, it’s her choice to put herself on this website, and I’m not hurting anybody by checking it out.”
Awkward, unsettling, intrusive, unnecessary. These may be some words that come to mind in reading the above snippets of conversations. Without doubt, it is difficult to talk about sex and sexuality. Many of us believe it’s a personal issue, best left alone and behind closed doors.
But what does any of this have to do with Purity?
There is a reason that we believe that these issues are not best left to the written word or behind closed doors but should be discussed and walked through on a continual basis. God’s Word teaches us that our personal sexuality is inextricably linked to two things: our relationship with God and our relationships with others. And these two areas of relationships are always public, no matter how hard we try to hide them.
Sex is powerful, because our view of our sexuality reveals who is at the center of our life. Engaging in pornography and masturbation are not harmless acts. They reveal that personal sexuality is just that, personal. It’s all about me and what pleasure I can get.‘How I dress is my business.’ And that statement just told us who is the central concern in the speaker’s decisions. Dressing to get attention is a dead giveaway of a life devoted to self. ‘I just want someone to pay attention to me.’ ‘I want to be wanted.’ ‘I need to release some tension.’ ‘I feel empowered, in charge, like I never do in my regular life.’ ‘Come on, baby, just this once; I need this. It will be great for our relationship.’ ‘You know I’m happier after we’ve done it.’ Around whom does the universe and all people revolve in these statements?
Life lived for personal gain or pleasure is empty. Satan’s original lie in the garden was that x, y, or z is better than God. God knows, and he has told us again and again, that we will never be happy until we are happy in Him, that only when he is at the center of our lives will we know who we are, that only when all our thoughts and actions revolve around him will we be truly thinking and living.
You see, purity is not just an outward conformity. It’s more than abstinence, turtle necks, internet filters, or the physical acts. Purity, as the Bible defines it, is single-mindedness. Belonging to and serving God in our sexuality is purity.
In summary, this Purity Weekend is not about rules or boundaries primarily. It is about a boundless joy and delight in single-minded, pure-hearted devotion to our True Lover. This joy, this realigning of our universe, is enacted in our every decision and thought. Boys are no longer simply people to give us attention and affection. Women are not objects for our pleasure or domination. Spouses are not just here to meet our needs. These people are brothers and sisters, creatures in the image of the One Who created sex, and are respected and loved as such.
Please make every effort to come this weekend to New Life Dresher’s Purity Weekend. Consider meditating on Romans 6.1-14 as you prepare for this coming weekend.
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